Reality star Kandi Burruss almost became a mother of five but then tragedy struck.
On the season 12 premiere of Real Housewives of Atlanta on November 3rd, 2019, Burruss revealed that the surrogate she and husband Todd Tucker are using was initially pregnant with twin girls – but one of the embryos didn’t survive. The news was bittersweet for the couple.
According to Us Weekly, news broke in September 2018 that the couple was expecting their second child together through a surrogate something that was new to both of them. Burress welcomed her son Ace with Tucker in 2016 and gave birth to her daughter Riley with her ex in 2002. Tucker also has a daughter from a previous relationship.
Fans have been with the couple every step of the way of the surrogacy as Burruss and Tucker documented their journey during season 11 of Real Housewives. So, why did Burruss opt for a surrogate in the first place? After facing fertility struggles, the pair turned to in vitro fertilization to conceive their son Ace. However, it wasn’t without its own set of struggles and scary moments. She told People,
“[I had] a couple of scares during my pregnancy with Ace. I was a high risk and I did have bleeding a few times. So my womb is just, it’s not the best place to have a healthy pregnancy with no issues.”
Around the time of her pregnancy, Burruss also suffered from fibroids. With those factors in mind, Burruss’ OBGYN, Married to Medicine star Dr. Jackie Walters, called surrogacy “a great option,” according to People.
Typically, one embryo is implanted in the surrogate, but Burruss had two embryos left from the IVF process with Ace. Tucker told Dr. Walters that he only wanted to do it if they could use both, and Dr. Walters explained that their options were two separate surrogates or one surrogate with twins, with Burruss and Tucker ultimately choosing the latter. Although Burruss understood that surrogacy was her best chance for having another child, that doesn’t mean she was completely onboard from the get go.
In an interview with The Daily Dish, she confessed that even though both she and her husband were nervous about having a child through a surrogate, it weighed on her a little differently. She explained,
“I think it’s easier for Todd to handle or deal with because as a man he’s used to somebody else carrying the baby. But for me it’s a little bit harder for me to deal with the thought because I’m supposed to carry my own kids in my mind.”
When Burruss went through the IVF process, even though it wasn’t smooth sailing, she wasn’t completely in the dark about what to expect. Not knowing anyone who had gone through the surrogacy process that she could lean on made the experience all the more daunting. She told Us Weekly,
“When we were going through the IVF process, I did have a couple of friends who had done it, so, you know, I could talk to them, but this is a situation where I don’t have anybody I can talk to.”
Despite her initial hesitation to fully embrace the idea of surrogacy, the television personality revealed that Bravo host Andy Cohen who welcomed son Benjamin through a surrogate in February 2019 offered some kind words that helped her get through it. Burress told former Busy Tonight host Busy Phillips that she had made a comment to Cohen about how she was going to have a, quote, “baby mama” – and he had a strong reaction.
Burress hadn’t known at the time that Cohen was also using a surrogate.
Tucker and Burruss’ child is due in November 2019.
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